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Knit Together by Adoption – Keepin it real!
A long time ago I participated in a month long challenge on Instagram.
We were asked to address a new topic each day for the whole month.
Granted I didn’t participate each day and life goes on and other demands take president.
But I would like to share with you my answers on the day’s I did participate.
My knit together by adoption answers:
#knittogetherbyadoption asks how it was sharing our adoption news with family. I would say it was exciting the first two times. But after the second adoption fell through we kept Romes adoption to ourselves till it was official. THAT was hard as you just want to celebrate. Shout the news from the roof tops!!! Our families embraced our journey through adoption from the very beginning which was very appreciated. Praise The Lord for our two boys. They are amazing and fit into our family like missing puzzle pieces.
Today’s #knittogetherbyadoption topic is The Wrestle. See Rome walking out on the elevated 2by4? Eventually when he gets close to the edge the wood tips and he “falls” down. That’s how I feel. Most days of the year are great! I am blessed with two fantastic children. But some days as I walk my own 2by4 I drop. No warning. It could be a conversation about labour, another adoption bill showing up, my boys asking for a sister…the list goes on. That is my wrestle. To take those drops with a smile get back up and keep walking. Ps. No Romes were hurt in the making of this analogy.
Day 9: The moment you questioned. During this third wait period has made me question a lot. As we wait to be chosen, this time for a daughter. I question if 3 kids will be too much, if we can handle the financial frustration of a third adoption, I fear that we have such amazingly healthy boys that their is no way it will happen again with a third. I try to will myself to feel like my family is complete so we can quit being drug through all the hoops that adoption demands. But I can’t. Our family isn’t complete. I pray for my Lords strength when I have none, for his courage when mine is lacking, and for protection around our third baby as I can not be that physical guardian for her. I may question if I can handle it all but I have no doubt God can handle it. And so I look forward in anticipation to one day meeting my daughter. Faith, a scary thing to put into action. But always worth it.
One day my hope is to see my children have an open adoption experience with their birth families. Until then we just pray they are doing well……Turns out #knittogetherbyadoption day 10 is about birth mothers. So I will ad to this that our two birth moms are amazing! They need to be left alone right now and I have to respect that. But I hope one day that will change. I have never loved a “stranger” more. My prayers surround them always.
Day 11: Being Mom. Some may take this title for granted but I do not. Being mom is the most special title I could be blesses with. So Thankful!!!
Since I have no idea how to get a pic off my clipboard to share I will use this pic instead! Play date this morning. Super cute! Day 11 IG mom that inspires u, I have not been following too many IG adoptive moms for very long so I will share@houseofrose she inspires me as she is a mother of three boys. I love seeing that I am not the only one surviving and experiencing life with boys! She also helps me feel ok with not always having things all together.
Day 13&14 Is it bed time yet & labels. I chose this early morning picture due to the feeling I had that morning. I just wanted to stay in bed 6:30 is too early! So that goes along with bedtime right!?!? Sometimes I am thinking of bedtime even before I get up in the AM #parentingproblems As for labels I will say the thing about adoption is it can make me sensitive but also frustrated with how sensitive people can be. Sometimes the politics around labels go too far and the meaning behind it all can get lost. I choose to get past being offended and try to see the love meant behind a poorly used label. Such as “real” kids. Maybe that thinking will change when my kids are older. I will have to wait and see. #knittogetherbyadoption #adoption
#knittogetherbyadoption asks about changes after adoption. Since we had no children before we stepped into adoption the biggest change for me was sleep depravity! I hear from my friends that have gone through pregnancy that sleep become hard near the end. My guess, God is preparing those mothers to handle waking up at random times. I never had that!!!! One day I was sleeping through the night, the next I was waking up and making bottles. 5yrs & 2adoptions later I am STILL exhausted! But every missed minute of sleep is so worth it.
This was such a fun activity and it was a joy to read everyone elses answers shared under the #knittogetherbyadoption on instagram.
Great news! Since November is national adoption month @mixed__beautifully (previously known as @koolkiddoz) is hosting a month long challenge once again.
I highly encourage you to join in the fun & meet others in the adoption & foster community. I have already started…and if you jump in late you are still VERY WELCOME!
Feel free to follow me @adoptionmamablog on Instagram as I plan to participate 
ALSO, I still have a great giveaway happening on a previous post that I recommend you check out! It is a new adoption book that I LOVE!
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