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Today’s Topic is “Anything Goes”, so I thought I would share with you how adoption came to sit so strongly in my heart.
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Adoption was weaving it’s way into my heart long before I “chose” it.
When I was around age 10 God started preparing my heart for adoption, and YES I said age 10. Any time I would hear a story of an orphan or a neglected child my heart would ache. It was more then a feeling of sadness learning that some children don’t have families, it was a stronger feeling then that, won that was asking me to DO something.
The only way I can describe it is that is was a strong desire to love a helpless child.
Since I grew up so blessed to be raised in a home filled with God’s Love I knew how awesome family was. It was saddening to me to see anyone else given anything less.
Then when I found out all the details (I mean DETAILS) of how baby’s were born I announced to my mother that I would not be going through labor to have a family…that sounded frightening… I would ADOPT INSTEAD. My mom laughed at me of course and said that one day I would change my mind. Perhaps I had a moment of weakness for pregnancy after I got married but I never fully changed my mind.
Another huge thing that impacted me while growing up was seeing my mom’s passion to fight for a child’s right to live. She is a passionate pro-lifer and in turn I saw plenty of images of babies in the womb; some beautiful (healthy children in the womb) and others graphic (how abortions are actually carried out).
The beauty of God’s creation was not lost on me when I saw the images of babies alive in the womb.
It also broke my heart to see images of aborted children, discarded. I still feel sick when I think about it.
After moving on to college I had the opportunity to do a presentation on whatever I wanted and so I jumped at the chance. My research was all about China’s one child policy and the effects it was having on the baby girls being born into their country (Unwanted, discarded and killed). Again I saw images that made me feel ill, images of dead babies left in ditches. My heart felt like it would burst feeling the pain and sadness that came with the research for this paper.
Subsequently I decided that when I was ready, I would adopt from China (later God redirected my husband & I).
Let me also admit to you that I had first attempted to get my parent’s to adopt me a sister from China but they were kinda done raising children….it was going to be up to me 
When I look back throughout my life I can see that God had been planting seeds in my heart for decades, later to sprout into a strong desire to grow my family through adoption. How grateful I am to see that instead of becoming stuck in the grief of our infertility I was able to celebrate. Celebrate the knowledge that I was following God’s plan for my life and not my own.
So I suppose I never CHOSE Adoption, but it sure CHOSE ME!
If you are going through a time of waiting or pain, this is my prayer for you:
That one day you may be able to look back on this stage of your life and see all the moments God was by your side, because although you may not be able to feel it now, he was, it and always will be by your side. Guiding you closer to a life lived for his glory.
What a blessing it is to watch my children grow up, knowing that God chose for them to be in my family. I am SO THANKFUL and full of love!
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